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Shaping Our Future
Right now is the moment to consider what safety and privacy looks like for the current stalking, harassment, and privacy violation issues we face today. As technology advances, how we protect ourselves must stay updated with new technological, hacking, and cyber abuse methods.
On this page you will find stories of survivors, encouraging problem solved reports, and what's going on in our world community concerning violations. Acknowledging issues and not re-victimizing, but being pro-active for a better tomorrow for us all is key.
Lets come up with new norms for boundary creation and processes concerning the law. Check the link below and see what's happening at the U.S. Department of Justice.
This article shows how our leaders understand that the use of tech with stalking, harassment, and privacy violating has become typical. As of this articles' date, stalkers have upgraded from their use of tags. We need to become serious and intentional with combating intrusion.
In An Ideal Future, Stalking Victims Matter!
This video by the Stalking Resource Center is nine years old. Our local and world communities are having the same responses years later. Not much has changed. Collectively, we need to consider stalking, harassment, and privacy violations graver than how we all currently handle them.
Why Stalkers Do It?
Dr. Sohom Das explains the different types of stalkers and their motivations. He also gives tips on how to handle a stalker. If there are different types of stalkers, then stalking looks different per victim. Stalking victims may handle their experiences differently.
It is extremely hard to talk to others about what they don't understand. They often get frustrated and tired of hearing about what they are not personally experiencing. In some environments, there is a stigma about what victims experience depending on the situation. Meanwhile, the victim is in crisis without being able to vent healthily. Let's start talking about it.
Stalker POV
Andrew T. Austin has a good grasp on the point of view of the stalker and their behaviors. As survivors look for ways to deal with their abusers, this advice is a great place to begin a "life after your stalker" plan.
Ignoring the problem is not expected to help. Stay vigilante. Not feeding into the situation can help.
Bystanders Have A Responsibility
Practical Psychology's Youtube video demonstrates the Bystander Effect. This occurs within "mob" mentality, as well. Believing that "it is not your problem" or saying you, "don't want to get involved," makes you a part of the problem. Witnesses that do nothing to stop it allows the assault. It is co-signing with the aggressors. In some cases, bystanders are held to legal repercussions along with the main abusers.
The Survivors' Experience
Dr. Les Carter understands the survivor POV. Experts agree that most stalkers have behavioral and mental health complications. It is not the survivors fault.
Gang Stalking: It's REAL out here.
Professor Sam Vaknin speaks. As a world community, let us study and learn to recognize the difference between mentally ill people and gang stalked victims (everyone gang stalked is not mentally ill).
Then, we can have a serious understanding, instead of simply labeling victims without proper research and investigations. (Contact Shielding Angels to join research efforts.)
Quantitative research is not definitive on gang stalked victims being automatically ill. Its a lazy, unfair explanation that is superficial in analysis.
Group bullying is not a new concept, tactics are (ex. using tech, social engineering, doxing leading to stalking, etc).
Device Safety Is Different Now-a-days
The Stalking Resource Center reports that technology is indeed being used on victims and that usage continually advances. Using tech to stalk, harass, and privacy violate can happen to anyone.
Survivor Stories
What is going on? These are true testimonials of survivors.
Angel In The Distance
There was a time when I thought having a stalker would be interesting. Back then, I had equated having a stalker to the natural woes of being beautiful, highly desirable, and apparently irresistible. One day, and I never saw it coming, it became true. Not only did I have a stalker, I had two that constantly turned into many more from their pity party recruits and their vowing to "destroy or make life hard" for me - their words.
Well, one might ask, "What did you do to deserve it?" And, my response is, "If I had done something worthy of all their negativity and schemes, then they would have taken me to court or had me arrested." I assure you, all I ever did was stand up for myself and who do I think I am to do that against them? Thus, I became victim to their made up "transgressions against them" campaign.
However, somewhere within their false pity party recruits, stalking became a game to them... a challenge to cross any boundary I'd put up. For them it was fun to be a nuisance. This group of people broke all types of laws that currently, organizations are not really equipped to problem solve, including the police and it has been like this for far too long. Online gang stalking gives stalkers protection, but these people are bold enough to present themselves and this behavior where I live. No one intervenes or does anything, no matter who I go to for assistance. I even have footage that does not get in front of trusted people.
My moving on with my life offended them. I did not pay attention to them or have the emotions they wanted me to have. The activities outside of them that I did give attention to, they would compete with by invading my space. It was their way of forcing my attention to them and trying to convince my own circle of their narrative. They would copy things I did (I am a content creator and author), while sabotaging me. They were forbidding me to move on and said that they were "swopping" identity's and destiny's with me. (I know what it sounds like. They are the ones crazy.)
My original stalkers have recruited persons with authority that go in behind me places, lying to people about the situation. Who will investigate them? Frankly, I will find a way and not give up on myself.
Needless to say, I regret thinking to have a stalker was cute. It is not. It is worst than ugly, it's evil. Beauty, desirability, and being irresistible has less to do with it. It is more about control at all costs. This is not even half of my story, but...
This is where Shielding Angels come in. Allow Shielding Angels to do the problem solving that cases like this one, and others, need.
Married To No Walk In The Park
Gaslighting was the norm with how my husband handled me and the dynamics of our relationship. I remember a time that I put on a gown for lounging around the house. I got up from the couch and looked out of the window to admire the sunshine. My husband commented on how the color of the gown was not working on me and a woman like me should not wear something sexy. He told me that the pajama set that covered my body up would do me more justice, since I was no longer attractive. I was so stunned, that I could not say anything.
He used to do things like tell our family and friends that I was dumb, stupid, and that all of our problems were my fault - because I was such a bi**h. It was hurtful and damaging to other relationships when they believed him and took his side. Some of my own family would take his side against mine. To some of them, he could do no wrong.
If I ever went somewhere without him, he would blow up my phone. If I turned my phone off to get a break from him and he could not get in touch with me, he would contact everyone we knew to find out where I was. Once I went out with my female family members to a bar, after he went through his process of finding me, he came to the bar to make trouble that involved embarrassing name calling and violence.
Alcohol and drugs were an issue with my husband. Off and on he optioned for recovery programs, sometimes court ordered. He would go through my personal items whenever he felt like it and steal from me. I had to hide my money from him and would give him some money in an attempt to prevent him stealing from me. It did not work. There were times after going through everything in my house and he still did not find money, he figured I had my mom hiding money for me. My husband went over to my mother's house, went through her things, and stole money.
For a year, I had an escape plan formed that I would not act on. I stayed, because I did not want to leave my step son behind. My step son begged me and made me promise not to leave him alone with my husband.
I lived in an uneasy, on pins and needles, nightmare. Eventually, my husband went to prison for a few years for related incidents. That is the only way he left me some amount of peace. Since, he has been released. I still catch him circling my parking lot when I'm at work and can tell he is watching my social media.
Men Are Stalked, Too
I worked with a woman that insidiously pressured me into an entanglement with her. She would never let up. She even used other people at the workplace to daily suggest that we get together. I was new and in a way, I did not want to cause any hostility with people. She seemed well together and a very good, responsible worker. She seemed normal. So, I caved.
Early on, I started seeing red flags. I took her behavior to mean that she was really, really into me. I would just brush her behavior off, telling myself that she did things because she cared. Her love bombing was intense. She used hovering techniques and she liked to argue. She made demands on where I could be, who I could talk to, and I could not go anywhere without someone that could vouch.
Arguments had gotten so bad that we often made unprofessional spectacles of ourselves. We had constant fights over control. She was suspecting of me and this other woman, and we argued so much about it that I broke our relationship off. Plus, I was tired of having to do her bidding and purposely treat this other woman bad to show loyalty. I quickly learned that everything I thought this woman I was involved with was capable of, was not all she had.
This super intense, controlling woman reeked hell and havoc just to "appear" that we were still in a relationship to coworkers (even if we were not). She would not allow the breakup. She never accepted no for an answer. I caved, again to save myself of trouble from her and her friends. I just wanted to get through my work days, but it was embarrassing. We argued at work. We argued and had physical altercations when we were off of work. She has been caught hiding in my bushes and attempting to have my neighbors watch me. Many nights after work, she came to my home to be toxic.
She started having people watch me and stalk me for her at work. She crocodile teared and told lies. Lies like her being pregnant and that we were engaged to be married. She has even threatened my life.
I admit that I really did not take the time to get to know the woman, before agreeing to get close to her. Our getting together was fast and impulsive. We had never even gone on a real date, outside of work and her visiting my home. It was only a workplace relationship that in a short amount of time, had gotten too extreme.
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